Be Proactive, Not Reactive

I have free time like I have free money, but that doesn’t stop me from reading. At the moment, I’m reading three books:

  • The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People, by Stephen R. Covey
  • The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People: Personal Workbook
  • Fierce, by L.G. Kelso

I have depression, which makes it really easy for me to become my own worst enemy, usually through my thoughts. While dealing with the side effects from Prozac a few months ago, I picked up some books to help me through. “7 Habits” was one of them. Right as I started reading it, I decided that I was tired of things always happening to me (depression, family issues, etc). I’ve always gravitated toward books that I really needed to read, that end up helping me with something in some way. “7 Habits” is no different.

I read and write to understand the world around me, but also to understand myself. “7 Habits” is teaching me to be more proactive about my life, rather than being beaten down by the things that happen to me—the things I can’t control.

The book takes you through all seven habits, but I’ve been reading it very slowly, absorbing everything Covey has to say. I know that one of my biggest weaknesses is the way I react to things I can’t control. I’m working hard to turn that around.

I don’t believe that it will cure my depression, but I do believe that it will be yet another tool I can use to dig myself out, so that I never have an episode this long again.

Covey says that, instead of focusing on things that are happening to and around you (things you can’t control), focus on things you can control. So, for example, I can’t make poisonous people in my life be more positive, but I can stop spending time with them and spend that time with more positive people.

It’s a simple concept, but I never understood how to put it into practice. I know that might sound crazy. I guess this is what it feels like to grow up.

What have you learned recently? What books have changed your life?

Raising Dad: Chapter 7

Raising Dad: Chapter 7

“I didn’t ruin your mother’s and my marriage,” Dylan said, delivering each word slowly, like a punctuation.

Natalie snorted. “Oh, you didn’t, huh? Just like you didn’t make us leave the house.” She paced away, blood boiling. Her entire body shook, clammy heat rolling over her, as if her blood sugar had just dropped. “You cheated on my mother!” Tears stung her eyes.

“No, Nat,” her father said. His voice dropped. “Your mother cheated on me.”

She turned toward him, the tears pausing. “What?” Continue reading

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