Recently, I had a revelation: I was letting extraneous events and people shove me around. I kept feeling like I was just spinning my wheels. While reading The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People, I realized exactly what I was doing wrong, in all aspects of my life: focusing on what I couldn’t control.
It might sound simple, but it was a huge breakthrough for me. Ever since I realized this, I keep coming across articles, podcasts, and other things that are in alignment with focusing on what I can control. It’s like now that I’m on this path and actively focusing on myself and my marriage, the universe is working with me.
These last few years have been rough. Mike and I have dealt with a lot of tumult, and we kept getting caught up in it. That’s not to say that you can’t help people or care when bad things happen, but you also can’t let it run your life.
I’ve also been focusing on the wrong things when it comes to my books. Instead of working on things I can control—like writing as many books as possible and connecting with the readers I do have—I worried about sales and advertising. Those things aren’t necessarily bad, but they only create short-term results, leaving you feeling like you’re doing something wrong and getting nowhere.
I’ve only taken little baby steps so far, but I already feel better. I feel less stressed and anxious, and feel more capable of getting things done. It also helps that I started a medication called Viibryd a week ago for my anxiety and depression. I was really scared to try something else after what happened with Prozac, but Viibryd and I seem to be getting along. Tomorrow, I move from 10mg to 20mg, and I have a feeling that it can only get better from here.
I’ve learned so much from The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People that I had to pick up the workbook, too. Together, they’re like a power house. I’ve been kicking ass this past week. I have more energy and feel more motivated—and I’m not even doing anything crazy, like exercising.
I also have a new goal.
50 Books By the End of 2015
Later this month, I will release my 18th title, putting me at almost halfway to my new goal! My intention is to build a mini empire of books, making it easier for new readers to discover me.
I’m not sure yet if this means that I will release 50 books total by then, but I’ll definitely have written them.
What constitutes as a book? For my goal, it has to be at least a novelette—around 10,000 words. Short stories don’t count.
I’m super excited about my new goal and all that will be happening in the next year. I can’t wait to tell you more. Make sure you’re on my email list because, when the times comes, I want you to be the first to know!
Have you been focusing on things you can’t control? Have you read “7 Habits”? Leave a comment and let me know!